{"id":517,"date":"2016-01-14T09:29:25","date_gmt":"2016-01-13T22:29:25","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/womeninstrata.com.au\/?p=517"},"modified":"2016-01-14T09:29:25","modified_gmt":"2016-01-13T22:29:25","slug":"why-we-should-be-taking-our-boys-to-the-ballet","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/womeninstrata.com.au\/blog\/why-we-should-be-taking-our-boys-to-the-ballet\/","title":{"rendered":"Why we should be taking our boys to the ballet"},"content":{"rendered":"

After Christmas, I took my almost 3-year old son to see an Australian Ballet Company production for children:\u00a0The Sleeping Beauty Storytime Ballet.<\/a><\/em><\/p>\n

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The Australian Ballet Company website describes the production as\u00a0“the perfect first ballet experience for boys and girls”\u00a0<\/em>(brownie points from me for the preferencing of ‘boys’ in this sentence).<\/p>\n

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Unfortunately, the message that this was as much an event for little boys as it was for little girls did not seem to have filtered through to the masses. When my son and I turned up to the performance (which filled the Sydney Opera House Drama Theatre) we faced a foyer filled with little girls, most dressed in tutus or ‘princess’ attire. Once seated, my glance around the theatre revealed a few other intrepid mums and dads of boys. The fact that I could count the boys on two hands with a theatre capacity of near 500 was moderately disturbing.<\/p>\n

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I have to confess, and perhaps this is to display my naivety, I was surprised at the lack of boys at an event that was (a) marketed to both genders and (b) targeted at the “3 and up” age group. Toddlers aren’t making their own purchasing decisions (at least not directly), so when did we start deciding for our boys that going to the ballet is not something that would interest them?<\/p>\n

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If I assume that I am like most parents of very young children, we probably try, wherever possible, to choose for our children the type activities in which we have a mild interest ourselves, or at least those that are least likely to bore us to tears. Surely there are mothers of boys out there who would be excited about the opportunity to see an Australian Ballet Company production that only runs for 45 minutes, with tickets under $50.<\/p>\n

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So, where were you?<\/p>\n

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It seems we have made a decision, whether or not consciously, that there are certain activities more suited to little girls than boys and vice versa. In making this decision, we are introducing the concept of gender to our children, and creating the boxes within which they are very likely to live the rest of their lives. When we tell our 3 year old boys \u2013 whether directly or by our actions – \u2018this is for boys\u2019, <\/em>we are telling them what it is to be man, and that \u201cmen don\u2019t do things like this\u201d.<\/em><\/p>\n

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I can\u2019t help but feel terrified by the knowledge that it starts now, at this very young age, and I\u2019m watching it happen.<\/p>\n

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Two of my nephews are enrolled in a dance school. The eldest, who starts high school this year, studied ballet for a time. Sadly, he gave that up last year, faced with bullying from so-called ‘friends’, even though he had a natural talent and enjoyed learning the new and difficult skill. The (male) bullies accused him of being \u201cgay\u201d because of his dancing, specifically ballet, and decided that was a good enough reason to verbally and cyber-bully him.<\/p>\n

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Anyone who has seen John Travolta in\u00a0Saturday Night Fever\u00a0<\/em>will quickly tell you that there a few things more attractive to a heterosexual female than a man who dances well. Greek men have been dancing for thousands of years (and they dance\u00a0together<\/em>). When did dance become feminised to the extent that our pre-teen boys are bullied for attending dance class and we don\u2019t think to take our 3-year old boys to a children\u2019s ballet?<\/p>\n

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The question of what it is to be a man and what ‘masculine’ means is complex and difficult. The topic gained some important attention in 2015<\/a>\u00a0and hopefully this conversation continues this year. Films like Jennifer Siebel Newsom\u2019s The Mask You Live In<\/em><\/a>\u00a0are vital conversation starters in this space and an excellent way to communicate an important message to a media-driven generation: that stereotypical concepts of masculinity are severely damaging to our boys and men, linked to increases in crime, violence and suicide<\/p>\n

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If we really believe there is a long term benefit to our boys engaging in \u201cfeminine\u201d pursuits, like dance, then as women and mothers we are uniquely placed to help them do so. For a very short period of time, we have a lot of control over how the world is filtered through to our boys. I intend to take advantage of this time and do the best I can, while I can, to deliver to my son a world of possibility and inclusion.<\/p>\n

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How about you?<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

After Christmas, I took my almost 3-year old son to see an Australian Ballet Company production for children: The Sleeping Beauty Storytime Ballet.<\/p>\n

The Australian Ballet Company website describes the production as “the perfect first ballet experience for boys and girls” (brownie points from me for the preferencing of ‘boys’ in this sentence). <\/p>\n

Unfortunately, the message that this was as much an event for little boys as it was for little girls did not seem to have filtered through to the masses. When my son and I turned up to the performance (which filled the Sydney Opera House Drama Theatre) we faced a foyer filled with little girls, most dressed in tutus or ‘princess’ attire. Once seated, my glance around the theatre revealed a few other intrepid mums and dads of boys. The fact that I could count the boys on two hands with a theatre capacity of near 500 was moderately disturbing. <\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":1,"featured_media":521,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"_et_pb_use_builder":"","_et_pb_old_content":"","_exactmetrics_skip_tracking":false,"_exactmetrics_sitenote_active":false,"_exactmetrics_sitenote_note":"","_exactmetrics_sitenote_category":0,"footnotes":""},"categories":[4,5],"tags":[],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/womeninstrata.com.au\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/517"}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/womeninstrata.com.au\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/womeninstrata.com.au\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/womeninstrata.com.au\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/1"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/womeninstrata.com.au\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=517"}],"version-history":[{"count":4,"href":"https:\/\/womeninstrata.com.au\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/517\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":523,"href":"https:\/\/womeninstrata.com.au\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/517\/revisions\/523"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/womeninstrata.com.au\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media\/521"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/womeninstrata.com.au\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=517"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/womeninstrata.com.au\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=517"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/womeninstrata.com.au\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=517"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}